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Light BDSM For Beginners

BDSM can be a little “much” for some people but, after doing a lot of research, I have found that you don’t have to go all out in the beginning.

You can ease your way into bondage or electrical play.

Like, pulling her/his hair, light spanking, light bondage, aggressive language and biting, my husband and I have done most of this during foreplay.

Many people including me thought BDSM in porn is the only kind, will it’s not.

If you would consider light BDSM, then look no further in this post, I’ll introduce to you, some of my favorites.

Pulling Hair

Pulling of the hair is a great way to start your kink, since you are in control of how hard or soft your partner pull your hair by using safe words.

Communicating with your partner always helps you find out their likes and is a vital part of BDSM. Try pulling her hair when she takes it from the back.

Light Spanking

Spanking has been a favorite of mine; I love the sound his hands makes when he’s hitting my butt. But for some, it could be the transfer of power or the unleash of endorphins when you feel pain.

The best way to begin is with your hands since you as the “spanker” have better control of how hard or soft you spank. Then you can move on to paddles or floggers, but for the average person, this is extreme.

Tying Up

Now, you don’t have to go buying handcuffs or ropes when you can try scarves when it’s the easiest.

Similar to Christian Gray you can use a simple scarf to bind your partner’s hand with their consent.

Handcuffs are dangerous especially when it’s tight around your partner’s hands and can do some real damage. Ensure that your two fingers can fit under the knot on your mate hands.

Aggressive Language

Calling your partner names can be a fantastic introduction to BDSM. But, always ensure that your partner consent to all the words.

Some women love when their partner calls them “dirty whore” or “slut” if you don’t use these words then it’s a good time to start with her consent of course.

However, I don’t suggest calling your partner names that will offend them; in fact, this is a huge turnoff and becomes awkward over time. Sit down and discuss what some words that are OK and ones that are not OK to use.

Sir/Madam

Little pet words are good also, calling him Sir is a great way to ease your way into BDSM since it provides him some control without giving it up totally.

Biting

If you would like to try biting, you’ll first have to ask your partner their preference.

How hard or soft?

To leave marks or not?

Some don’t mind the marks while others don’t like them. If you find it hard to cover up before a family get-together then tell your partner no marks. Asking your partner how hard to bite is important also, since biting too hard can upset them.

Pervertible

Pervertible is a fancy word for using household objects as toys. These include spoons, brushes, and dusters it depends on your imagination.

These pervertibles make fun toys, with that said, insert none of these objects where they don’t belong since this can cause problems. Use for impact play such as with a blindfold and touching your partner’s skin with them for sensations.

Sensation Play

Sensation play is restraining your partner, blindfolding them and then putting sensation on their body. By running a furry object all over their body, pinching and teasing them to the edge are sensation play.

With sensation play, trust and control are essential between couples as a sub; you must give your dom total control of the scene. The cool thing about being blindfold is- it heightens your senses more than it would be if your eyes were open.

Flogging

Flogging may sound intense, but it’s not especially if your partner knows their limit. It is pleasurable for some, and the pain is not that much. If you are looking to start pain play, then begin with flogging.

Always put your partner’s wishes first and ensure you know the limits and respect them. These beginners activities are perfect for newbies, and eventually, you’ll want to go further into BDSM.

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